Momma Cliques

Did you know they exist?  It wasn't until this past summer that I noticed them and honestly, I think for a brief time I was in one.  When I was in the fourth grade, I have a memory of a classmate and I thinking it would be a great idea to write down everyone's name in our class and sort them into "cliques".  Of course that great idea turned into that girl bringing it to school and telling everyone I wrote it, which then led to having my entire class mad at me.  So, hard to believe that many years later I am once again thinking about publishing something about cliques.

In high school, I loved that fact that I was in a clique, I'm not sure why...maybe for security...maybe because I thought I was cool.  Who knows?  All I know now is that if I could do high school all over again, I would be nicer to everyone, among other things.  I'm glad those days were a learning experience. :)

Now, that I am a SAHM, I have been searching for a friend.  Maybe that sounds pathetic, but it didn't take long to learn that my colleagues, were just that, my colleagues, and they are still working.  If we didn't "hang out" before, why now?  I guess before, I had "girl talk" during the day and when the day was over and I picked up my children, I wanted to come home and spend time with just them.  Now that I am home all day,  there are times when I would like to have that person to call up and chat with, go to the movies with or have dinner at El Rancherito`or anything that gets me out of the house!  I am thankful that Jordan's cousin lives close because if it weren't for our weekly playdates, I might be a little crazier!

This summer I started noticing "Momma Cliques".  We went to the library program each week and this is when I first noticed them.  As I took my kids on other outings, to the parks, swimming, etc.  I would continue to see these groups.  I always spoke to the women, but it ended there.  Now, I won't go back to my childish fourth grade self and categorize these groups for you, but I am sure some of you have noticed them too.

I need that sense of community and I am hoping that now as we move to another town, that I find "my clique".  I am not sure what it will look like, but I do know that it won't be exclusive. :)  And, if you belong to a clique and you see that new SAHM, hanging over there by herself, talk to her, invite her to lunch with you, or to your next play date.

As always, thanks for stopping by. ~Julie